Freakin David Guetta & Kid Cudi...
I've had this topic on my mind for a while now. Kind of touched on the subject in a previous post but finally taking the time out of my precious study session (hah) to write since it's been so appropriate as of late.
I've had this topic on my mind for a while now. Kind of touched on the subject in a previous post but finally taking the time out of my precious study session (hah) to write since it's been so appropriate as of late.
So there are a plethora of unwritten rules for really random situations from ordering soup from Soup Kitchen International to using a urinal (apparently). No one explicitly talks about it but everyone just knows the protocol anyway. So I was curious, is there a universal hook-up etiquette?
Let's start with the definition of a "hook-up." I suppose it may vary slightly, but to my understanding, a hook-up can range from kissing to anything before fully having sex. It must be spontaneous or irregular and include very minimal talking. Personality exploration implies date.
There are 2 types of hook-ups. The party hook-up (self-explanatory) and the fun buddy. Once the latter progresses to actual sex, they are no longer considered hook-ups. They've moved into the eff buddy zone and that's a whole other ball park I'd prefer to steer clear from.
To state the obvious, the hook up tends to be assisted by alcohol. It can last just one kiss, the entire night, or occur between multiple different people, depending on the sleaziness of the parties involved.
From what I can extrapolate from observation and experience, the night of the hook-up is pretty unreal. All of a sudden you're kissing a random stranger and you're oddly okay with that. In fact, you're more than okay with it. You encourage it. At least, for that night. The aftermath is the most interesting part of a hook-up, I think.
It's quite easy for a hook-up to escalate to sex but both parties might not be okay with that which might make for an awkward situation. Best policy is to state that explicitly I think.
So now if both people are on the same page... no sex, no strings attached, just lip action, then you're both in the clear. That is the epitome of a good hook-up. It's conveying that information that can get a little sticky.
If there does happen to be some probing...not that kind you sicko. Personality probing...one or both people might want/expect the hook-up to elevate to the next level. Cool if both do. Crap if only one does. Oh and double crap if you will see this person afterward on a regular basis.
Now we enter the weird chasing/avoidance stage. Both people will be looking out for the other. But while Person A will be hoping to see Person B, Person B will be looking to get the hell out Person A's peripherals. Neither will approach the other and just let their thoughts form crazy assumptions.
So is that alcohol-induced night of amusement worth all the awkwardness and headache? Personally, I just love awkwardness and ibuprofen. But to make it easier on all of us, maybe we should establish some inherent rules. Some might already be in place via common sense but I've noticed that most people are lacking a bit in that area.
Ceebs writing them now though.
